Fatheroffour wrote:with more than 1/3 of my life invested in her, I feel a need to try and hold it all together.
Throwing good money after bad is horrible investment advice. You're investment isn't paying off but you did get some good dividends while you had it. It's time to withdraw and better spend your resources. With such a flakey mom, your kids need a good, strong, level headed dad. Be that dad.
x2. It's that line of reasoning that leads many people to stay with a terrible spouse. Look at it this way...would you rather spend what good years you have remaining with someone like that?