dacoming wrote:You guys are all right and I know it. But for some reason, I keep hoping things will change. She's not all bad but these things are unbearable. I even have nightmares about us arguing all the time. And I really hate to disappoint my son.
been there. like, literally within the past 3 months. i was the guy just trying to hold the family together, overlooking all my STBX's crazy, irrational, harmful, mean, etc. behavior because I thought #1, it was best for the family, and #2, I was holding onto this image of my wife from before, and didn't want to "abandon" her in her time of need.
go out and get the 2 books in the link above, read "THE LIST" that gets posted here frequently, and buckle up. If you truly want to "help" your wife, you need to stop enabling and validating these ridiculous behaviors she does. If she's like my STBX, she hasn't been held accountable for a d@mn thing for quite a while now, and continues thinking it's OK to act like a complete child, because hubby is there to take care of her. maybe one day she'll get her act together, maybe she'll come looking for you (a changed person) and maybe you'll be available for her at that time. and maybe not. good luck, and stay strong.