atoice wrote:That is one way to look at it with the doctor. But the 11 year old should be capable to speak his/her mind as a witness.
A huge investigation would have to be done and beyond a reasonable doubt! I am sure there wouldn't be sufficient evidence, unless there is! Relax...easier said that done...and I know...but you're fine. Let her accuse..makes her look like a wack-job...probably better for you in the end.
Fatheroffour wrote:You moving back won't be considered a change of circumstance. If it were, dads everywhere would be changing their address all the time to revisit custody.
That's why we suggest not falling on their sword as you did. Its not easy to change once you settle as you did.
As far as attempting to be proactive and proving something you didn't do, that's not the way it works. She accuses and has to provide evidence. Enough to sway a save-a-ho judge that's acting cautiously 'for the children'.
60 days a year? Whats up with that? I thought you were fighting for primary and settled for less to keep the peace. It looks like you gave up the farm.
Vega wrote:I was hoping that a change of job from shift work to a 5 day a week schedule in conjunction with moving close by would allow for a change in circumstances. They used my shift work as a tool to say it was an inconsistency to the children.
Vega wrote: I am getting accused of the unthinkable.
Anything4Her wrote:Vega wrote:I was hoping that a change of job from shift work to a 5 day a week schedule in conjunction with moving close by would allow for a change in circumstances. They used my shift work as a tool to say it was an inconsistency to the children.
It may not qualify for a CoC immediately, but set up your life to facilitate more custody down the road. Yes, move close, get regular hours. Show up at every extracurricular you can, read to their classes. Participate in their lives to the extent you can now and wait for opportunities.Vega wrote: I am getting accused of the unthinkable.
You must feel like you got hit in the head with a fence post. Calm down.
So far, it's just her emails. Radio silence. She's trying to get to you.
If she files with your local child protective services, speak calmly to them, invite them to watch you interact with your kids, *calmly* explain the custody battle. They've seen this before.
I keep saying calmly b/c I remember you can be kinda excitable when you're being attacked. Cool as ice is the way to handle this.
Radio silence, wait for developments, move closer
I went through the similar issues when my nj realized she was losing custody and her non factual based TRO was being thrown out.
That evening Child Welfare received an anonymous tip that my daughter was being molested by me.
NJ went so far as to video D3 while triying everything conceivable to coach D3 into repeating nj's claims.
Suffice to say after the DCS and local law enforcement investigations were completed, the case was "found to be without merit". No consequences for the anonymous caller (NJ), no mandated retractions of the multiple Facebook Posts publishing the claims, nothing but "found to be without merit".
It's a $hitty situation especially when you consider the very pointed questions the children are required to answer during the process. The effects or delays that the falsified claim may have on any future legitimate issues the children may experience...and the list goes on.
During my situation I was beside myself with fury for nj and her false claims (just what she wanted). Luckily I was able to remain focused on the task at hand (D3's best interest). Even though D3 was subjected to the process. I found all involved investigators to be professional, courteous and always mindful of potential negative effects when interviewing D3.
I can appreciate how you feel but I would suggest making every effort to cooperate fully with the investigations and the truth should come out.
Hang in there, this too shall pass!
Thank you. So I shouldn't respond to her emails? I feel like when she accuses me of things I have to defend them. Is this true?
Vega wrote:I feel like when she accuses me of things I have to defend them. Is this true?
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