So I'm not sure how to feel about this and could use some thoughts from the other dads here.
Last night my wife was baking some apple thing for herself when I took the dog for a walk. When I got back, she asked if I wanted to watch TV or something, so I said I was tired and planned on going to bed.
She started her usual song and dance of getting angry, so I let her have her show, until she hit me with the fridge door.
Now, I'm not physically scared of her, and this didn't really hurt, but damn if it doesn't tear me up inside.
She's never gone so far as to hit me with something before.
So at this point I'm worried it could escalate further one day and I'm not sure what to do. I want to stick out a couple more years so my son is old enough for me to get primary custody, but after this, I don't know where I stand. Not sure if I just want out or what...
I'm just very confused at this point and feel that even though it wasn't painful, it was clearly an act of aggression.
Thanks kn advance for your help. I really, really appreciate it.
If it were me, just my thoughts, I would try to involve a third party into this, if you think it may be her testing the waters. Maybe a pastor, or someone you both trust. Hopefully, if you come into it as a concerned loving spouse, concerned about her and the relationship, she will admit to doing this, and you will gain a witness. Then it's evidence.
"I'll never give up trying to help my little girl!!"
[depends on your jurisdiction and current divorce status]
It's really important you call 911 to get it documented when it happens.
If you wait you can still file a police report but asking for an arrest warrant would have two (or more) outcomes: a) no court order in place and the arrest warrant might be issued or b) with a court order it's up to you/your attorney to motion the court to summon stbx for a chit chat with the judge overseeing your case.
On the flip side if she were on the receiving end of DV: It's very likely she wouldn't hesitate to call 911 on you and the boys in blue wouldn't hesitate to hog tie and taser you when they arrive to save her.
Advice: keep a voice recorder in your pocket and start recording these memories.
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My nj/stbx had this in mind (and still does) for me: the manipulated man by Esther Vilar
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