oklahomaDAD wrote: The favors i just put up with to keep her in a good mood till this divorce is final, then im pulling the coattails from underneath her.
I can empathize a bit here. I spent a long time walking on egg shells and second guessing my every move, wondering how it would look in court once we had our final hearing. But looking back, now that I have my final decree, I can't believe what I put up with.
oklahomaDAD wrote: she said she wanted gas money and an apt alarm added to the monthly support. What a parasite.
Are you talking about the "temporary" alimony you agreed to pay her last year in April? Now she wants it raised? Dude, you were married less
than a year, and now have been paying her alimony for over
a year. She's already had way more than enough. No. No < edited > way.
oklahomaDAD wrote: the NJ just decided she didnt like our current TO agreement. She instructed me my D will be attending a new daycare in the next city adjacent on her days and i will have to come up with something on my days. And she changed the date of the pickup for our 50/50. ...The TO just says, "< parenting time > agreed by parties"
Firstly, I see no problem with arranging child care on your days. You can't trust this woman for anything. Be a Dad, and get business taken care of.
Next, the TO says "< parenting time > agreed by parties". Is NJ's new proposal what you both agreed to when that was written? Do you agree with what she wants now? No? Then don't agree.
At some point you're going to just have to take a stand and do what you think is best for your daughter, and be prepared to defend your actions in court, rather than second guessing yourself on every move.
oklahomaDAD wrote:how do you explain to some dumb NJ that she should rather have me as a friend that will help support/be there for her for the rest of her pathetic life than turn me into her worst enemy?
Maybe you should just tell her, and mean it