BartSimpson wrote:OK, a little slack, but I hope you understand that we're pushing back because you are going against the current. There is something odd about your approach to the circumstances, your priorities, and your heavy reliance on lady luck.
You plan to bail with the clothes on your back, expect only a couple of days a month with your kids, provide minimal financial support to your kids' primary home, and have an expectation that your crazy wife will carry the load with all this added burden.
Doesn't seem like a good plan. It doesn't seem to meet the Best Interest of the Children test.
Mr. Simpson, hehe, thanks for providing some insight as to your, and I assume Fartheroffour has a similar perspective.
I can see where you are coming from. Kinda makes me sound like a horrible person. I'm definitely not trying to put her in a horrible situation with my kiddos, and I definitely plan to see them far more than a few days a month!
That's not my goal at all...my goal is to simply protect myself in case she flips, and tries to get nasty. Isn't it in my best interest to get the lowest specified amount assigned from the court as possible, and just pay additional as I see fit?
This is in line with, keep the government out as much as possible. The lower the amount that's required; the less of a chance I have of running into trouble paying it because of a hard time. Ergo, less opportunity for her to claim non-compliance, and challenge shared custody in court.
I'm far from greedy, and they won't go without. I can live on very little, and plan to do so. One way or another I'll ensure the extracurricular activities are paid for; such as karate for my son, and riding lessons for my daughter. They'll continue to goto summer camp and whatnot as well. The lawyer pointed out that she'll likely qualify for increased benefits through the state, making it cheaper for her to live as well. I don't believe she has any plans to quit school...nor do I.
Basically I'm trying to protect myself as much as possible, should she decide to get nasty after everything is said and done, and to help ensure I don't make mistakes she can use against me later on. I really thought this was in my best interest based on what I had read around here.