I'm 29 years old, 2 kids S2.5, D9Months.
Married 3-4 years. Moved in with her parents during her last pregnancy.
She wanted a home birth, fine. She started having an affair, found all types of
pics of her while she was pregnant on our computer with other dudes. WHILE SHE
WAS PREGNANT. One day I come back from work, she drops the divorce bomb. Her family and her had to have been planning this, they set it all up to have us move in with our kids so they could transition easily. Anyway, things got to the unbearable point where I had to frequently leave or the NJ would keep screaming with no regard for the kids. One night I went to go get some food and the door was locked, BOLTED in fact. Call her, call her parents, ring the door bell, knock on the door, everyone refused to answer me. Finally, her brother sends me a txt msg saying stfu we're trying to sleep! At this point I would have done physical damage to them, for safety sake I had to go cool off. Looking back I should have called the police. So, she already filed for divorce, didnt even know it. It was at the point I had to leave her parents house because of all the drama, family members acting < feces-like > to me, whole 9 yards. It took weeks in order to be able to see my kids. She's using them against me.
MY MAIN QUESTIONS / MAJOR CONCERNS:
#1 There is no custody order, no court order, nothing. Just divorce filed, no court date yet. Am I not legally able to keep my son with me for a day or two?? She gives me 4 hours 1 day a week IF I'M LUCKY! Turns into 4 hours every 2 weeks. I had my son and daughter here, my Daughter breastfeeds every 4 hours, whatever, shes better off with the NJ, but my S2.5, hes dying to spend time with me and I miss him so much I cry 8 hours a day at times. Anyway when I had them last weekend, I was going to keep my son longer. I called the cops and the cop made me give my kid back to her! I was like there's no order! He's like doesnt matter. I have it all recorded. If I keep my own Son with me, what can they do????? Who is she to say I cant see my kids!?
#2 I was not technically served, they pushed the papers on my brother (he has the downstairs and I live upstairs) Not same apartment, separate household.. Anyway I have until Wednesday to file my Answer with Counter. Should the ANSWER to the "divorce lawsuit" be a full on explanation of everything relevant or just basically sharing my proposed parenting plan, custody plan, etc. Do I save the entire shortened juicy story for court at trial or what?
That's about it, everything else is BS forms and madness. I WANT MY KIDS BACK! THAT IS ALL I CARE ABOUT!! Thank you for reading and any help!!!