Fo4 and Scout,
Thanks for your comments. Last evening was just a bit easier, for me, emotionally. STBX wanted to "discuss some issues" and I sort of played along a little bit. Once she started getting upset, raising her voice, going off on tangents, I simply and calmly said to her, "Our children can hear and understand all that you are saying. I am going to go be with them now instead of doing this with you." It was so relieving to me!! Of course she was livid, but I felt great. I know that I did the right thing for my kids and the bonus is that it was the right thing for me too!! I don't have to engage with her!
So here comes a question then... "radio silence"? I want to take some time to prepare, collect, and document and in the mean time, not let on that I am through with this marriage. I can maintain "radio silence" as in not engaging with her in her rants. I am telling no one that I am doing this, less you good gentlemen here. The question is, what else is intended when you all say "maintain radio silence"?
I made a spreadsheet to record all of my time and what I am doing. I am using it to record, especially, all time and activities with the kids, but also all that I am doing when I am not with the kids. I want to be able to show, if needed, that I am working, parenting, doing school (online college courses), "homemaking" all of my waking hours. STBX is a server, part-time, with dual master's degrees and has lots of time to be on the internet and talking with girlfriends and such. I am preparing for what could come. I fully understand another poster's comments when he said, "don't think that your wife couldn't and wouldn't do 'that' to you". I know that STBX is not the woman that I married.
Thanks for being here, guys.