defaultuser wrote:Here is my guidelines that I use.
If she throws accusations at me, I just ignore them.
If she pretends that I have done something improper and I have proof otherwise, I ignore.
If she makes accusations that could be true but aren't, I make a one line denial. "You have a key. Our son has a key"
If she uses the kids as pawns, I offer to take the kids off her hands as she can't handle them. "I'd be happy to come pick up the kids if you're unable to properly care for them"
Otherwise, I don't engage. That handles most situations.
Great perspective thank you. It's hard not to engage when she does it in front of people though you feel like you need to defend yourself sometimes.