Heroin and Guns

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Heroin and Guns

Postby SadDad » Thu Jan 26, 2012 6:50 pm

Figured this would get your attention.

NJ has been dating a guy since she got kicked out 15 months ago.

Kids havent met him yet (thank you jesus)

He was arrested in 2005 and served 4 years for armed robbery/knive and assualt (gun). He said is was to fuel his heroin addiction. NJ is an alcoholic who is attending less and less AA meetings. And just for kicks, he now works at a brewery.

SO.

1) I do believe people who serve their time get a second chance.
2) Is this info of ANY value to me in a settlement, mediation or trial?
3) Anything I can put in the PP to protect against him/kids?
4) Or should I just ignore it and brush up on my self defense skills ( NJ is an ANGRY individual)
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Re: Heroin and Guns

Postby defaultuser » Thu Jan 26, 2012 7:03 pm

Most importantly, can he get you free beer?

Just kidding. My opinion is, that in mediation you could use it to intimidate her, or at trial you could use it to make her look bad a little.

Its no silver bullet, and you'd need proof to make it work. In one respect, she doesn't have him around the kids, so there isn't much to say except that if she is dating someone, she would eventually do so... unless she's just a slag.

Someone's convictions are evidence that can be entered as evidence.
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Re: Heroin and Guns

Postby hoosier_dad » Thu Jan 26, 2012 7:13 pm

Your alcoholic ex is dating a guy that works in a brewery, talk about a kid in a candy store.
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Re: Heroin and Guns

Postby SadDad » Thu Jan 26, 2012 7:57 pm

Even I laughed at the irony. Two addicts surrounded by beer.

I could care less who mows her lawn, but it would seem this info and proof (pictures together on facebook and quick criminal search) show at least show a pattern of stupidness. Combined with the recent GAL report of her saying "she never deserved supervised visits" and her reduction in attending AA.

She also cheated on me during our marriage with ANOTHER convicted felon (again robbery) ..she likes dudes in pinstripes I guess.

I would HAVE to think her patterns and choices might not be a silver bullet, would have SOME impact on a judge or mediator? Chain smoking AA attending former drunk dating a ex gun toting herion addict?

All this info she doesn't know I know.
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Re: Heroin and Guns

Postby defaultuser » Thu Jan 26, 2012 8:22 pm

SadDad wrote:All this info she doesn't know I know.

Keep it that way.

I would research the uniform child custody law in your state. It will have factors the judge uses to determine custody.

This will fit into one of those factors. In Florida, here are the factors:
(a) The demonstrated capacity and disposition of each parent to facilitate and encourage a close and continuing parent-child relationship, to honor the time-sharing schedule, and to be reasonable when changes are required.
(b) The anticipated division of parental responsibilities after the litigation, including the extent to which parental responsibilities will be delegated to third parties.
(c) The demonstrated capacity and disposition of each parent to determine, consider, and act upon the needs of the child as opposed to the needs or desires of the parent.
(d) The length of time the child has lived in a stable, satisfactory environment and the desirability of maintaining continuity.
(e) The geographic viability of the parenting plan, with special attention paid to the needs of school-age children and the amount of time to be spent traveling to effectuate the parenting plan. This factor does not create a presumption for or against relocation of either parent with a child.
(f) The moral fitness of the parents.
(g) The mental and physical health of the parents.
(h) The home, school, and community record of the child.
(i) The reasonable preference of the child, if the court deems the child to be of sufficient intelligence, understanding, and experience to express a preference.
(j) The demonstrated knowledge, capacity, and disposition of each parent to be informed of the circumstances of the minor child, including, but not limited to, the child’s friends, teachers, medical care providers, daily activities, and favorite things.
(k) The demonstrated capacity and disposition of each parent to provide a consistent routine for the child, such as discipline, and daily schedules for homework, meals, and bedtime.
(l) The demonstrated capacity of each parent to communicate with and keep the other parent informed of issues and activities regarding the minor child, and the willingness of each parent to adopt a unified front on all major issues when dealing with the child.
(m) Evidence of domestic violence, sexual violence, child abuse, child abandonment, or child neglect, regardless of whether a prior or pending action relating to those issues has been brought. If the court accepts evidence of prior or pending actions regarding domestic violence, sexual violence, child abuse, child abandonment, or child neglect, the court must specifically acknowledge in writing that such evidence was considered when evaluating the best interests of the child.
(n) Evidence that either parent has knowingly provided false information to the court regarding any prior or pending action regarding domestic violence, sexual violence, child abuse, child abandonment, or child neglect.
(o) The particular parenting tasks customarily performed by each parent and the division of parental responsibilities before the institution of litigation and during the pending litigation, including the extent to which parenting responsibilities were undertaken by third parties.
(p) The demonstrated capacity and disposition of each parent to participate and be involved in the child’s school and extracurricular activities.
(q) The demonstrated capacity and disposition of each parent to maintain an environment for the child which is free from substance abuse.
(r) The capacity and disposition of each parent to protect the child from the ongoing litigation as demonstrated by not discussing the litigation with the child, not sharing documents or electronic media related to the litigation with the child, and refraining from disparaging comments about the other parent to the child.
(s) The developmental stages and needs of the child and the demonstrated capacity and disposition of each parent to meet the child’s developmental needs.
(t) Any other factor that is relevant to the determination of a specific parenting plan, including the time-sharing schedule.
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Re: Heroin and Guns

Postby hoosier_dad » Thu Jan 26, 2012 9:47 pm

SadDad wrote:Chain smoking AA attending former drunk dating a ex gun toting herion addict?


As bad as this new guy is and her pattern of boyfriend choices, the scary thing is I still believe your ex is the bigger danger to your children.
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Re: Heroin and Guns

Postby anonymous guest » Fri Jan 27, 2012 5:32 pm

Just remain vigilant and keep pushing for alcohol provisions in the parenting plan. If that is the company she keeps, its only a matter of time until she slips up.
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