WhoWeAre wrote:Suppose your relationship was ending now, instead of then. Suppose you could do one thing over. You cannot save your relationship, but you sure wish you had...
Mine is... I sure wish I had realized she was not the same woman anymore; that we were locked into an adversarial system and that I would need to fight because the only thing that matters anymore is the judges decree.
The reality is you are nothing like you were 10 years ago and 10 years from now won't be anything like you are today.
So make a choice, do you want a long term relationship or do you enjoy multi tasking ? Both are fine. I do get bored filling out the same form very time to get laid by a hottie. However, the hunt can also be fun. Point is going forward, the relationship is like a third party: a baby that needs to be cherished like a child. It is not about what you want in a relationship or what the lady wants in a relationship since you are both a moving target. What's important is the commitment to go through time together and hold the relationship sacred. To do that one needs to find someone who has same values:
moral, religious perhaps too. That's about all one can count on given the ravages of time.