I had very little experience dating before the stbx. after we slept together and i was done with her, i should of stood my ground and not felt bad about not wanting to see her again. I felt sorry, I didn't want to hurt her, hell anyone for that matter. so I stuck around, ended up marrying her and I have two great kids because of it.
If i could do it over? well, I guess I wouldn't. HOWEVER, i found myself starting to fall into the same trap again with feeling sorry for her after i filed and served her.
so what i WONT be doing is that again, and sticking around in the same trap for another 17 years. I'm getting the F out. Stand your ground my brotha's. Make yourself happy first, and the ones that are important to you will follow in that happiness.
Cheers, I finally was able to grow the balls and file this year! can't wait to be free and out of that prison.