Ever lost your a$$ets cuz you let your ex drive a car still in your name & she totalled it out & put someone in a hospital while drinking?
Ever had her raid your credit card for $14k while telling you she wanted to reconcile, paying her legal bill?
After being told counseling was the desire, ever showed up at an airport at 7pm on a Friday to get served while walking off a plane, with no access to counsel, the locks changed on the house, the kids staying in another city with whereabouts unknown, and <$50 left in your checking account?
When they decide one is not worthy of their affections any longer, a switch gets thrown, and you are evil. Kids are used as weapons, child kidnapping takes place, money stolen, medical care & record access denied, schools changed without notice, liabilities incurrend, lies told in open court to secure emergency orders, property stolen or damaged, you name it.
What the List lists is the experiences real people have enountered, and the real things they have had to do to protect themselves.
How it needs to be applied is on a case by case basis, with a touch of common sense determining if each circ is warranted. I.E., in many places, if you don't get her off your car titles & liability insurance as soon as possible, you can remain liable for her actions.
Also in many places, any changes to life or health insurance is frowned upon by the courts & can look malicious. So directions on the List pertaining to changes of insurance coverage needs to be done with an eye torwards your jurisdiction, court perception, and temp orders. But the advice is nevertheless valid and should be heeded by many guys. Personally, I had my ex try to defraud my employer's health plan 3 months after divorce, and had I not taken steps to divest myself of her, and my employer not already concluded she was nuts due to other actions, it could have been career destroying.
If you can avoid having to take any steps described, and maintain totally amicable relationships, more power to you.
My bet is the friendliness will wane when you want something other than what she wants, and that some of this advice will apply to you. Talk to us in 6 months.
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