Anyone with Newborn experience?

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Anyone with Newborn experience?

Unread postby HP » Fri Jan 07, 2005 9:50 pm

I have a friend who had a baby Dec. 7th.

The father of the child strayed and got some other chick pregnant. When it was time for baby to come, he came around.... stayed at the hospital, signed the birth certificate and blah blah.

She was released from the hospital on Dec. 11th. The father has came to see the baby twice since then.

He is accusing my friend of not letting him take the baby alone. Well, duh! The baby is a month old and she is naturally feeding the baby and she has told him over and over that he is more than welcome to come see the baby at her house. (He will not let her go to his house.... cuz of the new pregnant girlfriend I suppose) He won't. I think it is more his pregnant girlfriend that is not allowing that one....

Anyways...... She is taking him for support/< parenting time >. How does the court work as far as < parenting time > with newborns, especially since she is naturally feeding her?

This man has no license (due to a vehicular homicide that he served a one year prison term for), so he will never have a license....... and has nothing for the baby as far as crib, etc... at his house.
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Re: Anyone with Newborn experience?

Unread postby READY » Fri Jan 07, 2005 10:48 pm

He might as well go away and stay away.........

Those are the types we need not discuss in this board.


Sounds like this could'nt pour <edited for content> out of a boot if the directions were written on the heel.
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Re: Anyone with Newborn experience?

Unread postby ADF » Sat Jan 08, 2005 12:59 am

HP wrote:

> He is accusing my friend of not letting him take the baby
> alone. Well, duh! The baby is a month old and she is
> naturally feeding the baby....

Well, I went through a similar situation, mom breast feeding, I can't take care of my daughter. The judge in my case ordered, at the tender age of 2 months, that I was to have daily care and control of my daughter for 2 hours each day, 5 days a week. Of course the ex took off after that order was made ... a whole other story.
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Re: Anyone with Newborn experience?

Unread postby Lawmoe » Sat Jan 08, 2005 1:07 am

There is nothing that would preclude the father from having the baby away from the mother's care for short periods even as an infant. She does not breast feed 24 - 7. The Court would likely require some initial visits in the mother's presence before allowing visits away.

A father is no less a parent because he does not possess breasts. The argument that child is breast feeding is insufficient to disallow visits with the father alone.
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Re: Anyone with Newborn experience?

Unread postby divdad » Sat Jan 08, 2005 8:06 am

vehicular homicide?

I hope the < parenting time > is fair and takes all into consideration but, this father is a serial family father and this combined makes parenting a huge challange, especially done on a limited budget.

Economics is a major factor and is he's paying off lawyers in criminal traffic court, he's busy financially & time wise as well.

If the two can work out a means of exposure with or time with & $ for the child, w/o the court system, then they would be better off. They can grow up. If she feels threatened by his lack of responsibility, then he could offer a means of working with her, such as the child over at his mom's, sister or??

After all, not too long ago they were able to negociate a means of both getting to and get into, the bed, clothes off and so on.

Parenting....make it hard or, make it easy, they still have some degree of control. They are pre-system!
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Re: Anyone with Newborn experience?

Unread postby Fed Up » Sat Jan 08, 2005 9:47 am

If it's his kid, he's entitled to the child as the ma is. When she hauls him to court for his money, then he should make his case for having < parenting time > with the child. He can take the kid a couple of hours a day every day until the child is weaned, then he can get a schedule in keeping with the child's age and everyone's schedule. The ma can't have his money and keep the child from him. She's going to have to be made to play fair.
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Re: Anyone with Newborn experience?

Unread postby Onyx » Sat Jan 08, 2005 11:20 am

My sister breast feeds, and the baby can be left in the care of her husband for extended periods... they are married... it would be the same if they were divorced. When she needs to leave the baby with him, she uses a breast pump, and fills a few bottles. There is no reason why Dad cant feed the baby. All he needs to do is hold the baby close to him as if he were breast feeding. Blessings, Onyx
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Re: Anyone with Newborn experience?

Unread postby HP » Sat Jan 08, 2005 2:27 pm

Its difficult because she does not produce enough milk to pump and make full bottles. Seriously, she can only pump maybe an ounce.

She has offered the father of her child to come to her house to visit after work. He refuses to do so. I do believe it has to do with his current pregnant girlfriend.

He on the other hand, tells her that she is not allowed at his home. (Why?, again, I think its because of the girlfriend).

He has not helped her out as far as diapers, wipes, etc. He has not done anything for this child, therefore, she has no option but to go to child support.

She has no problem with him seeing his daughter, its just the fact that she is so small, he has no experience, she wants to teach him things (like how to change a diaper, etc) but he will not see the child in her presence because he doesn't think he needs to be "babysat" with his daughter.

I think its his girlfriend..........
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Re: Anyone with Newborn experience?

Unread postby Onyx » Sat Jan 08, 2005 4:11 pm

Then she should pump one ounce at a time until she can fill a few bottles and freeze them... so the baby can spend time with Daddy. Seems like a power trip to me, rather than a breast feeding issue. Really.. Just my 2 cents.
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Re: Anyone with Newborn experience?

Unread postby No·MAD » Sat Jan 08, 2005 5:12 pm

To quickly discredit Fed Up...Please reference this:

http://www.dadsdivorce.com/phorum/read. ... eply_36286


Need suggestions
Author: Fedup (---.proxy.aol.com)
Date: 09-26-03 15:50

I have the ex from hell to beat all exs. The children are now adults and I have no relationship with them, thanks to their mother. I will tell you that I never missed a child support payment, kept up all required insurance, including life coverage on me, for as long as I was required. We have been divorced for 20 years and she's still hounding me. It's like she can't let go. I'd like to pay her back. She's gotten my mail, listed phones in my name to get my calls, hired private detectives to tail me, photograph my house and wife and car. I'd like suggestions for what I could do to make her miserable, cause her disruption, aggravate her, annoy her, whatever, that won't get me tossed in jail or sued again.

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Fed Up/Zip has been on this site for 1.5 years under multiple names and giving the false impression that they are two different people. I recognized this within 2 weeks of reading this site. I was amazed that no one else could see it. You would constantly switch names and give the other "person" approval with a pat on the back such as:

here -
http://www.dadsdivorce.com/phorum/read. ... eply_69490

or here -
http://www.dadsdivorce.com/phorum/read. ... eply_69483

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Then I did some digging and came up with this:

Fed up:
http://www.dadsdivorce.com/phorum/read. ... eply_36286

zip:
http://dadsdivorce.com/phorum/read.php? ... eply_27317

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Interesting that they are different enough to fool the casual observer, but close enough to warrant a positive identity when viewed under close detail.

Both "posters" here had two boys, moved across the country/3000 miles, and had been divorced for 20 years...etc etc.

I also speculated that at least 1 of your son's is a poster here as well. ;-)


Might as well mention the fact that both "posters" say their ex's was stalking them, or the fact that both posters appeared here about the same time, or the fact that both posters vehemently attacked me from the beginning when I only "insinuated" that I knew they were indeed the same person. I would have never exposed him if he had not attacked me.
Throughout my history here I only expose those which become problems, and maintain silence on those that do not become problems.



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