Found wife on Tinder; when to bring up?!

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Re: Found wife on Tinder; when to bring up?!

Unread postby afc » Tue Jan 09, 2018 2:32 pm

Buy your buddy some condoms then write him off.
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Re: Found wife on Tinder; when to bring up?!

Unread postby Fatheroffour » Tue Jan 09, 2018 2:42 pm

Don't cruise Tinder.

Problem solved.
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Re: Found wife on Tinder; when to bring up?!

Unread postby Regguy » Tue Jan 09, 2018 2:55 pm

Thanks Lionel. I really don’t know what happens with online dating sites. I can’t process it in my head right now.

Tom , thanks, that list is very helpful
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Re: Found wife on Tinder; when to bring up?!

Unread postby dad2grls » Tue Jan 09, 2018 5:52 pm

Tell your buddy to go have fun with her and that you hope he enjoys your sloppy seconds.
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Re: Found wife on Tinder; when to bring up?!

Unread postby steelmark » Tue Jan 09, 2018 6:13 pm

Seriously, let her date, enable it, you hunker down and be superdad.

It’s easy for us to say, most of us are on the other side of divorce now, but the distraction of dating has submarined many a case, it submarined my ex’s.

Sorry you’re here, this group is a tremendous asset, use it, then help others.
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Re: Found wife on Tinder; when to bring up?!

Unread postby TJinCA » Thu Jan 11, 2018 11:20 am

I get the sense that the friend set up the date as an experiment, not out of serious interest in dating her, and OP is mainly upset with his wife.

I agree, her Tinder thing is irrelevant and best ignored.
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Re: Found wife on Tinder; when to bring up?!

Unread postby grandet2 » Thu Jan 11, 2018 11:35 am

Buy her flowers, take her out for a good meal, shower her with gifts - i.e. keep her sleeping, don't let her ever know that you know.

Clean out the bank accounts, get her off your credit cards, 2nd mortgage the house. Do all these slowly. When she does leave she will get part of the loans only and you keep a stash of cash and a smile.
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Re: Found wife on Tinder; when to bring up?!

Unread postby TJinCA » Thu Jan 11, 2018 12:51 pm

grandet2 wrote:Buy her flowers, take her out for a good meal, shower her with gifts - i.e. keep her sleeping, don't let her ever know that you know.

Clean out the bank accounts, get her off your credit cards, 2nd mortgage the house. Do all these slowly. When she does leave she will get part of the loans only and you keep a stash of cash and a smile.


Well, I guess you could use her being on Tinder as an excuse to try to steal from her, and hope you don't get caught in the discovery process...

Not the way I'd go, I think.
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Re: Found wife on Tinder; when to bring up?!

Unread postby Trevor » Thu Jan 11, 2018 4:23 pm

Seems grandie didn't read the part where papers have already been filed in the case.
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Re: Found wife on Tinder; when to bring up?!

Unread postby Chicyn2001 » Thu Jan 11, 2018 4:38 pm

I'm not up on the whole matchmaking sites but I always got the impression that Tinder is more of a hook-up app and Match/Harmony people are looking for long-term relationships? At least that's how my college-aged nephew explained it to me.

I agree with some of the other guys on here. Let her go out and have her fun. I would love to sit in front of a mediator and somehow get the point across that, while she's looking for love, I'm spending my time working on being the best damn single father in the universe. I've actually requested that my STBX can't bring a new beau around my kids until at least a year after I leave the house.
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