I was listening to a conversation the other day and they were discussing the injustices we suffer because of our inability to tell when someone is lying and how technology will soon eliminate that. Interesting stuff.
I am wondering what the legal implications of her actions might be.
You answered your own question. "As part of trying to reconcile I gave her full access to everything." The legal implications for her are none.
The both of you reconciled , which means the previous adultery has been condoned by both parties. The issue is what will the evidence show has been your behavior since the previous adultery? Are you spending lots of time away from home? Does your digital presence suggest mom does most of the caregiving?
What are your goals?