Thanks for responding. I've browsed around before joining, and I understand you're doing some excellent work here.
Regarding your concerns about my approach:
Legal value - My lawyer says otherwise. I'm not in the US*
These are old SMS. I stopped communicating with the NJ by phone and SMS a few months ago, then when she sued me I also cut off email, it's all through lawyers now.
Not gonna pay my lawyer to review them - I'll do the reviewing and send them the juicy bits.
Therapy - my budget for that is less than zero right now due to "temporary" child support that's been court ordered for the next few months before the case gets heard. I'm doing some "DIY therapy" instead, may be good to talk about that, on another subforum though.
Anyone for a straight-up technical answer?
* I don't want to reveal my location because combined with some other things I'll probably want to discuss here in future, it may make me identifiable. If you're a mod and can see my location and you have some info that's specifically relevant to my jurisdiction, please send me a PM.