There's this thing called the internet.Tennisdad wrote:No idea who would be coaching her though.
Start by reading The List. Use it as a template to build a list of your own. You should be keeping a well-written journal and parenting tracker. And.....in case you didn't know.....you should have an MP-3 digital recorder up and running any time you're around her. It'll be your only defense against phony DV charges.Tennisdad wrote:I honestly do not have a game plan. I was caught off guard. I do not know what to do. I would appreicate some advice.
Tennisdad wrote:Thanks for the responses. I touched the recorder/her back pocket at which point she swerved and pushed me away. There was minimal contact, no striking, hitting or anything. Is this assault?
http://enlightenme.com/assault-and-battery/ wrote:Assault has several different definitions depending on the jurisdiction. In some states, if you threaten harm, have the intent to carry out that harm, and the victim reasonably believes you are capable of committing the harm, you can be charged with assault. In other jurisdictions, if you try to harm a person you can be charged with assault even if the victim is unaware of the threatened action and you are unsuccessful. In other jurisdictions, assault is defined as any unwanted touching. If you touch a person without permission, and/or cause harm to that person, you can be charged with assault. Intent is not required in the third definition; if you do an action that is reasonably likely to harm another person and someone gets hurt, you can be charged with assault. This is true even if the victim wasn’t the intended victim.
Tennisdad wrote:I live in IL. We have joint custody of S3 with 60/40 time, with me having more time. Ex has been audio recording me regularly. I found today when she came over to pick up S3. In a heated argument I saw something sticking out of her back pocket. I reached for it, recorder fell out, and she started screaming that I attacked her. She admitted that she has been recording me for a year. I backed away and left.
I'm a little concerned that she has this incident recorded and has probably recorded arguments in the past. I know she is planning a custody/< parenting time > modification in the future. Can these recorded arguments affect me? Can she play them to a GAL in a custody battle?
Tennisdad wrote:Thanks for the responses. I touched the recorder/her back pocket at which point she swerved and pushed me away. There was minimal contact, no striking, hitting or anything. Is this assault? I did say 'I did not attack you' and 'I do not give you permission to record me' immediately in response to her screaming, then left.
She might get a restraining order, but our interaction is minimal, only at exchanges. How will the recording be used by her? She can't use it in court. I checked and IL is still a 2 party state.
I just realized after reading this that it was a set up. She was baiting me and I fell for it. I will start recording and I am keeping a journal. No idea who would be coaching her though.
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